About Me

Hello

I’ve recently returned to blogging after a two-year absence, due to depression, which this time really knocked me out.

When I started blogging on this platform back in 2012 I did chart some of my mental health issues but tended to write those in the third person, or you could say not dealing with my problems, now in recovery I’ve decided on a much more direct approach in charting my journey back to health.

I have also had to deal with the issue of homelessness which I have not really talked about here, but can assure you the posts are coming, I had a double whammy so I really only want to deal with one thing at a time,

This space is my head spill, where finally I can let my thoughts out and try to put the last two years into perspective in continuing to move forward, so forgive me if my thoughts appear jumbled and repetitive, being so long without clarity of thought, I don’t always remember the order of what happened,

As I move forward, I find that writing about my depression and subsequent health issues helps me a great deal, it’s cathartic, and also reading those that I follow, to see their journey/struggle with the same issues makes me appreciate how far I have come, and hopefully I’ll see many others safe return to life.

I will eventually move to other blog topics as I did before being a naturally curious person I soak up everything and have constant questions which keeps my mind active and helps me to maintain an interest in what’s going on in the world.

I have my own style of writing which might not be an attention grabber, but like to think I’m actually across a table talking to you so please fill in the gaps if the conversation starts to lull with your questions and comments, interaction is important especially when you have been locked in an invisible illness, it’s the secretiveness that stops your basic human interactions.

I’ve found many new blogs and always looking for more I may not comment at first just read to get a feel for the writer and of course like what they say, I have been moved to tears many times over the last month, and the supportive comments I’ve received have warmed me and made me grateful that so many understand.

Please comment on any post you like I enjoy interaction, and the different perspectives on Mental Health.

Cay x

 

NB: Most of the pictures on here are from Google images, I try not to infringe on copyright.

Some of the pictures are my own and will noted in my post,

 


55 Responses to About Me

  1. Riba says:
    March 17, 2012 at 06:36

    I was glad to see you “liked” my recent post, “Five Days.”

    I just wanted to stop by to say thank you. 🙂

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    • therabbitholez says:
      March 17, 2012 at 07:33

      Yes I enjoyed the post very much, and it was an intereting writing prompt, to measure life in five pieces as it were.

      I can see how you’d like to add much more and it’s inspired me to think about something along similar lines.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

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  2. vighneshacharya says:
    March 17, 2012 at 14:09

    very interesting “about me” page you have. this itself has some hope and inspiration that i love reading 🙂

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  4. Ann Marie Thomas says:
    January 5, 2013 at 11:09

    I came to this page to find out about you, but still don’t know anything except your motivation. If this page is ‘About’ it should tell us who you are: your name, if you have a family, where you live, what you do, or some such. We need a frame of reference to put your posts in. We want to get to know you. You don’t make friends without introducing yourself.

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    • therabbitholez says:
      July 29, 2013 at 22:26

      Thank you for your comment, I don’t blog to reveal evertything about, but to give windows into my thoughts, which like to share.

      I’ve been blogging for many years and have many friends through this medium and have also met many. There doesn’t need to be a frame of reference as I write about different subjects. I evolve constantly and write about what moves me personally. Hence I enjoy the diversity of all the blogs I read with an open mind, which in turn make me think,laugh,cry,inspire and above all learn,and am grateful to all those who share parts of themselves on their blogs.

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    • limbonaut says:
      June 2, 2015 at 23:37

      I disagree that every ‘About’ sections needs to include those kinds of details. To me, the motivation for writing this particular blog is pretty clear.

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  5. youngandtwenty says:
    September 11, 2014 at 20:50

    I’m loving the honesty of your blog. Keep fighting and keep writing 🙂

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  6. sandiyee160 says:
    September 23, 2014 at 17:16

    Hi, glad to see you through the other side of depression. You are not alone, there are millions of us. Welcome back. 🙂

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  7. Hetta B says:
    September 26, 2014 at 16:45

    Thank you for liking my post ‘Why this blog?”. It’s good to know that I’m not alone in the world.

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  8. ahuelon says:
    December 5, 2014 at 20:01

    I really enjoy your writing. I am a new blogger, began in Sept. I see you liked my piece on M. Brown. Thanks for reading it. I feel so strongly on issues that are happening. I don’t enjoy thinking and writing about my bout with being bipolar but am going to anyway.. I am not ashamed and think talking about mental issues needs to be done to shame society into treating us with with respect and understanding. Hugs.

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    • therabbitholez says:
      December 6, 2014 at 02:00

      Writing about mental health is productive and by doing so your saying to the world look I have MH issues and I’m not ashamed, however it’s also healthy to take an interest on what is happening in the world MH leaves us in cocoon whereby we think of nothing elese and besides I enjoyed reading your take on the M Brown situation.

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  9. Cat says:
    February 8, 2015 at 19:14

    I agree, Blogging is an invaluable source of recovery and growth

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  10. The Elephant in the Room says:
    February 27, 2015 at 21:57

    Hi Cay, I was wondering if you wanted to help out on a new project I have started. Its an internet newspaper. You don’t need to write anything specifically for it, it would just draw your posts directly from your blog every time you post. I just thought it would be a great opportunity to get our words out even further. Let me know 🙂

    https://paper.li/e-1425069269

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  11. boldkevin says:
    March 6, 2015 at 16:31

    Hi,

    I have today awarded you The Very Inspiring Blogger Award and you can read about this award to you (and others) by visiting my post here: https://mentalhealthwritersguild.wordpress.com/2015/03/06/very-inspiring-blogger-award/

    Mindful that some folk find the whole reward receiving process challenging, I hope that this is ok and that you will accept this award in the spirit that it is given and will not feel under any pressure as a result of it.

    Kind regards and God bless you.
    Kevin.

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  12. JC says:
    May 31, 2015 at 14:33

    I seem to have run into your blog a few times and it looks familiar… and then it hits me, yes, you’re the one who loves classic movies. So I’m going to follow you. I find that your writing pulls me into some invisible space and I want to keep reading; if that makes any sense?

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  13. JC says:
    June 4, 2015 at 13:25

    Thank you for the follow, I so enjoy your blog 🙂

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  14. roweeee says:
    June 26, 2015 at 10:36

    Hi Cay,
    I’m right in the mood for a coffee and a chat at the moment after recovering from a minor procedure in hospital yesterday and being home alone today, while my Mum has my kids.
    Most of us struggle with at least some degree of the imperfect life and the struggle that entails. While we might have had fabulous goals and aspirations for the future, our reality in the here and now can be less than desirable and down right impossible.
    After trying to somehow keep my life poised on the upbeat, I have come to understand that there are ups and downs and that’s normal. No shame in that. I have never been homeless but I have been affiliated with a group that helps our local homeless and been made aware of just how easy it is. Real life, for most of us, isn’t the fairytale but is still an enriching journey xx Rowena
    PS My journey with severe chronic health is oulined in my About page.

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    • therabbitholez says:
      June 26, 2015 at 23:07

      I’ve never minded the imperfections so much, i can deal with those, but sometimes life can take a dramatic swerve which you are ill equipped to deal with, be it ill health or homelessness.

      My goals have had to take a backseat whilst I deal with new goals, firstly getting well and secondly finding a secure place to live, which is challenging as my life cannot move forwards without an address, and this as you can imagine takes up quite a lot of my time.

      I’m not complaining I’ve accepted it, however it’s a daily struggle and not one I’m going win easily, but I keep trying, and attempt to deal with other areas which are in my control, it’s about balance, it will come, though in the meantime living in limbo pretty much sucks.

      The journey has been a learning curve in ways I could never have imagined, but learn them i have and will continue to move forward in anyway I can.

      Thank you for your insightful comment. 🙂

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      • roweeee says:
        June 27, 2015 at 14:43

        Cay, I just checked out one of your A-Z Challenge posts trying to work out where you are and read G. Could leave a comment there so I though I would here.
        I related to what you said about “you don’t look homeless” because I get that about my health issues/disability. While I am grateful that I can still walk and on my good days get further, I have periods where I barely leave the house. I have a disabled parking permit but am young without a wheelchair and sometimes feel I should use my walking stick, even though I might not need it that day. My greatest complication is my lungs, which have got down as low as 43% lung volume and I was really gasping then and looking after two extremely active/demanding kids who aren’t always “happy” when my health takes a nose dive. It took me 4 years to get any form of domestic assistance and I recently got some extra help under “decluttering and Squalor” to get my cupboards sorted. I can’t reach most places down low, which makes maintaining the house very difficult. WE have made huge inroads and my husband has perked up and pulled up the vinyl in the kitchen and put the cupboards in that we needed before moving the dishwasher into the kitchen. It’s been in ourt laundry and you can just imagine how that’s been for someone with limited mobility. We recently appointed the kids as “Dishwasher Managers” but they’ve each dropped a stack of bowls so it hasn’t been ideal. I understand how many steps and hoops you have to go through to get something seemingly simple done.
        However, you are on your way back now and every step you make, it adding up and taking you closer. hang in there and remember that the coldest time of night is just before the dawn. Love to you and hope the couch is comfy and you are with good friends and safe from harm!! xx Rowena

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      • therabbitholez says:
        June 27, 2015 at 23:37

        Hi Rowena, yes that point about not looking like…. it just pisses me off are we to wear huge banners delcaring our health/living status in life.

        We have to go on, no matter what and some of us make a huge effort so we are not burdens to anyone including the state, though it does seem to work against you and you have to continually explain your circumstances.

        I can’t imagine how challenging it must be to navigate dealing with chronic illness and family life, to the outside world it will look like your coping and I would think that sometimes thing can get very dark for you which is born of frustration, and also you have to manage your kids family life to ensure that they are getting the very best from you in terms of nurturing and of course their activities.

        I seems to live on hope and so far it’s kept me safe if not always secure, but onwards!

        Take care 🙂

        Here is the link to all my posts in the A-Z challenge: https://therabbitholez.wordpress.com/a-z-blogging-challenge-april-2015-homelessness/

        For some reason I wasn’t able to access your challenge or the link you sent on your posts on compassion.

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      • roweeee says:
        June 28, 2015 at 01:07

        There is a very good reason youo couldn’t access my link. Great writer, lousy technical skills. Last night, I finally managed to work out how to paste the number of views onto my blog and I’m close to nutting out how to build those extra pages.
        My natural disposition is to get deeply embroiled in one thing but I find my myself needing to master so many disparate areas to do things I want to do. I am a writer and yet I also need to be technical. I have a chronic illness/disability but am a parent and that has extended me to learn the violin,ski,get my kids to and from scout camps which involves packaging and navigation my two weaknesses but I’m sure that its thanks 5to these tensions and stretches that I am doing as well as I am and largely content. It also helps when the rest of the family is happy or at least not grumpy and depressed. I got them all out to the beach and into the sun yesterday including the dogs. Best idea ever and it was free. I’ll come back and post you the first poem in my A-Z series. Hope today is treating you well and I send you a huge smile and a hug! xx Ro

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      • roweeee says:
        June 28, 2015 at 01:10

        Here’s the link to the start of my A-Z Challenge.: https://beyondtheflow.wordpress.com/2015/04/01/the-acorn/
        I wrote something like 77,000 words so reading it is a bit of a challenge but pick out the ones which resonate xx Rowena

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  15. breakdownchick says:
    July 22, 2015 at 18:20

    Hi dear, I nominated you for The Premio Dardos Awards, if interested please visit: https://breakdownchick.wordpress.com/2015/07/22/the-premio-dardos-award/

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  16. gettingthroughanxiety says:
    August 12, 2015 at 04:43

    So you know, I have added you to my “Additional Blogs I Enjoy” page.

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  17. gettingthroughanxiety says:
    August 14, 2015 at 12:55

    For some reason I couldn’t find a place to write a comment under your movie reviews. I just wanted to say that I liked The Odd Couple but think the original shows were a lot better (even though I know they came after the movie). Have you ever seen the original shows? The new ones with Matthew Perry? They’re both good.

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  18. Lynz Real Cooking says:
    August 23, 2015 at 02:42

    thanks for writing about you and what you have been through and are going through! It really helps us to see we are not alone!

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  19. Stephanae V. McCoy says:
    February 2, 2016 at 16:38

    Hi Cay, I found your blog through a tweet by Opinionated Man and I wanted to stop by to say hello and to thank you for sharing your story. Depression has unfortunately been an all too familiar “frenemy” to me for a lifetime and I’m always interested in other’s journeys.

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  20. Pieces of Bipolar says:
    February 18, 2016 at 17:44

    I look forward to following your journey, written in your style, in your time 🙂

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  21. Hope Turner says:
    September 12, 2016 at 00:30

    How you never leave me, brings me to deep humility. I am forever grateful that you are always there for me. Hugs and more hugs, Hope. xoxox

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  22. breakdownchick says:
    October 25, 2016 at 13:18

    Hi my dear, I love that you never give up and you always share your story unabashedly. In sharing your struggle inspires me to never give up. I have nominated you for the Hearts as One Drum Beat Award ❤ Here is a link if you choose to accept:

    Hearts As One Drum Beat Award


    Peace and Love 🙂

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