Our discussion was about, how I was going to move forwards, my usual stock answer was “I don’t know” the response was silence and when pushed for an answer I was told I was making excuses and if they were in my position they’d never give up.
I didn’t jump all over this, and to point out the obvious we all handle events in our lives differently, and if I’m honest if the boot was on the other foot I’d probably would have said the same thing.
Thinking about this over the last few days, made me realise that phrases like “never give up” set you up to fail in some ways, I like to try to be positive, but not in the motivational way, but in more practical terms about what I can do in the here and now, having a positive outlook on life is great, but it doesn’t put a roof over my head or food on the table, I need something more real than happy thoughts.
That is not to say I don’t believe that good things will come my way, and I will have to work for them like everybody else, but there are times in my life when I do make excuses, because I cannot face another knock back, and am just trying to save myself additional pain that has to be dealt with at a later date.
I find can be as determined as I like, and not give up, be positive, say my affirmations in front of the mirror each day, believe in myself, nothing with change, is that an excuse or just the plain reality of my life presently.
Is my mindset only set on what channel, I could move, but my circumstance will be the same only in a different place, and in that place where I don’t know anyone or have any kind of support network, how would I manage or is that another excuse for not wanting real change.
My own reasoning is to stay, yes all kinds of bad things happened here, but I’ve survived thus far, but I want to look the people I know in the eye, I suppose you can call that determination or folly depending on your view-point, and truth be told I don’t want to start again somewhere else, another excuse perhaps, I made mistakes that had a devastating impact on my life, I ran away several times to the recesses of my mind, this time I want to face whatever happens face on.
That’s not about being positive, it’s about taking charge of what I can change and leaving what I can’t where it is.
How do you feel about positive thinking, does it work for you.