It Takes A Village To…

MentorTo finish the title: It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, that is a truism, when you look back on what we think is old-fashioned thinking, it would indeed take many to bring a person from child to adulthood, with guidance from parents and elders of the village who use their wisdom and experience to give you lessons in life.

It appears that we go it alone now our guidance stopping when we reach the age of majority, of course we will learn many other valuable lessons about life or not as the case maybe, but it seems to me that even in these modern technological times we still need support and guidance, however were conditioned not to ask or be embarrassed to ask for help.

When dealing with my own depression, and getting on the road to recovery I found myself anchorless, in the sense that although I’d been given the tools to change I could only do so to a certain point, hence the recent backslide, the support only went so far, I have a good network around me, but now thinking differently, they are there when things go wrong and give me a shoulder to cry on etc, however when you’re at that in-between stage neither of you have the tools to give the support needed, and I’ve realised that a different type of support is what’s needed.

So today after having a very positive conversation, I came to the idea that, even though there is support out there in terms of medical, therapy/medication beyond that we still need day-to-day assistance, one reason when you do emerge from the other side there’s a sigh of relief, “your cured” that thinking is incorrect, your being held together by paper(well I was) and it takes a lot more work to make you whole again.

I’m not reinventing the wheel, however the upshot was that were to put a proposal forward to our women’s group and try mentoring not life coaching as such, but to meet other women and men and we can talk about our different experiences and use those to help each other and the wider community, a bit of a hand holding service if you will.

The premise is just to be there to listen and give support wherever possible, even if it’s just a timeout from the family or if you feel overwhelmed on returning to work, or working for the many volunteer services, just to get you out of the house and back into a routine, but most importantly nothing heavy, we cannot take the place of therapists, medical staff, just to give people the breathing space to get well.

We got very enthused and will be writing the proposal soon, I think it’s so important that support continues beyond therapy, also the benefits of talking with people who have been through similar experiences will ease the stress of trying to explain to those that don’t have awareness, basically giving others an ear and voice, which in turn will hopefully motivate them to get back to their lives.

This is my positive for today.

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I returned to this blog in September 2014, after a 2 year absence, due to depressive illness and homelessness. This journey charts the rocky road to recovery and my feelings about it, and getting a home together after losing everything, this too has been a rocky rocky, both things connected on many levels, but separate at the same time. If you want to know more please read my blog:) and comment on any blog you like I enjoy the interaction, and belong to a great community on here. Thanks for reading.:)
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4 Responses to It Takes A Village To…

  1. This reminds me that my therapist has told me (more than once), that I need to start finding some peer support, rather than relying totally on professionals, in my journey to wellness. This is difficult for me, I’m always finding excuses why I can’t attend this group, or why I don’t have time for that one, or why the other one isn’t going to help me at all.

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    • I think it’s better in some ways, because you have something in common with your peer group, also it’s another way to make new friends and become more socialised as depression is a very lonely illness.

      Change your thinking and give it a try.


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