As many already know when you fall into the pit of depression, it can take a Herculean effort to get yourself to the otherside to recovery.
We need support, not just from the medical profession, but friends and family, as they are often the ones who have to live with the fallout.
There is however a downside to this when those close to you wish to manage your condition, which in itself is incredibly unhelpful, and can worsen your illness.
Support is what is required and when someone attempts to manage how you should feel, it’s akin to being trapped in quick sand, we all know our triggers, but we can’t agree to someone’s assessment just please them, or to reinforce negative feelings they may hold against us.
In them trying to help, they can inhibit the free flow of discussion, or attempt to be at your side in even answering questions for you, all this does is to aid your already low self esteem, and it’s difficult to make them stop through fear of reproach.
This especially holds true in relationships, when is much stronger than the other, which brings up the subject about inequality within a close relationship.
These type of relationships can be suffocating anyway, and you may be co-dependent, and your drowing, and they cannot see that this is a journey you have to take without them, which clearly leads to conflict.
You really do have to let someone go, so they can find their way back, it’s not because they don’t need you, but simply this is a journey for one, and in time as confidence grows, you support will he invaluable, but they must be allowed breathing space.
It’s a terrible thing to watch loved ones in so much pain, and one can be made to feel redundant, and we don’t always fully realise the effects this has in relationships/family, and we all have learn different ways in how we relate to each other, which only works if your willing not only to listen, but also look inside yourself too.