I read a blog on here a few weeks ago (sorry can’t remember the name of the author) anyway she talked about the stigma of eating alone, well tonight I had a short conversation about this.
Earlier I’d been out for dinner at a restaurant, at which I’m a regular and at the table next to me were two girls who live locally to me we exchanged nods hello and continued with our dinner.
Anyway later I saw them again, and one remarked that she felt sorry for me eating alone and felt she should have offered that I join them, I just laughed it off and replied I prefer to eat alone and I was reading and wasn’t really up for conversation she then looked offended I obviously was her missed good deed for the day LOL. (actually I was touched she thought of it)
Now to set the record straight there’s nothing wrong with dining alone, I did so last night and probably will tomorrow, I like eating alone, because it gives me time with my thoughts or I can get stuck into my latest book, and women eating alone doesn’t scream desperation or loneliness.
I go to several places where the staff know me well, therefore I can usually sit where I want which is never in a corner, and even if I go somewhere new and the wait staff can get a bit panicked by a solo diner I usually reassure them that I’m OK and to just carry on as normal.
So tonight I Googled dining alone and found this list on Wiki How To tips on how to be alone: my responses are in italics
I keep a blog and always have a note-book handy
* Be Happy
Yes I’m happy,
* Do everything you would normally do with a friend
I do that anyway
* Learn something new
Learn something new everyday and that includes taking classes
* Get A pet
I have two cats already, and they are independent
I do voraciously
* Join an online community
Erm yes done that!
* Sing or Dance
Well singing is for the shower or when drunk at karaoke and dancing only when moved to
Oh come on !
* Listen to music
Wow I never thought of that!
Well according to the list I’m done whatever will I do tomorrow, that’s the problem with unhelpful advice on how we should live our lives or be part of life.
As a singleton I enjoy eating alone/cinema/travel which are the biggies and I also read that there is a new App called “Invite For A Bite” where women can invite random strangers to eat with them so as to give the impression that they are not alone, who really wants to eat with a stranger.
dining alone means I meet all kinds of people and have some great discussions without them actually sitting at my table or either feeling obliged to talk it’s just cool when it does happen.
I like the cinema alone because I have chatty friends and it pisses me off to pay £10 plus to listen to them talk..lol
The same with travel I can meet and chat to others be part of the group but I can also do my own thing, also organised group activities gives me hives!
The downside of all of this is that I have one of those faces so the weird and wonderful always want to talk to me and relate their entire life story or medical history, seriously if I were Robinson Crusoe I would build a raft in less than a day to get away from Man Friday LOL.
So leave us single diners alone.