Like most I belong to several online forums and have done for years, the reason I like forums is the diversity of the blogs I read and the many friends I’ve made over the years some of whom I’ve met, that especially is a boon, as your face to face instead of blog to blog.
The people behind the screen vary, but in one particular blog space I us it’s become a war zone, seemingly we are not tolerant of other’s views, lifestyles, age, race the list is endless.
I’m no phycology expert but have seen enough of life to understand that some people are just not happy unless they’re making someone else as miserable as they are, this is the downside of being online flamers can hide behind their screens and project all their personal dissatisfaction onto others.
Now I love a good rant, it’s natural we all have to let go but to be constantly so angry whereby it rules your life, beggars belief. This new trend of attacking the person behind the argument as opposed to challenging the argument itself is the worst kind of communication as it serves no purpose except to the flamer.
Flamers, instigate, manipulate any situation to their own ends , christ they don’t even need a reason and if they find a target for their ire, the gloves are off, and to watch as I’m watching a daily assault, powerless as myself and others have tried to reason with them to no avail.
They are also flaming the same person on their blogs, we have gone to the site and they say as they don’t mention names there is nothing to be done, we have all blocked, and they just create new “Sock Puppet” profiles,to continue, even crazily arguing with themselves on their own blog to make it seem as though they were under attack.
This is what disturbs me is the completely “off kilter” tone to their comments and blogs, however the don’t have an “off button” for their outrageous behaviour and the more we ignore the more they flame, what a way to get your jollies...NOT .
I must mention the insidious little trolls who join the flamer, like it’s some kind of sorority, and as we have found people wh we thought we knew creating new profiles so they can flame on the dark side, and switch back and forth.
I’ll probably leave that forum as this has gone on for about three months with no signs of abating, which is a shame as we were a relatively happy group until this flamer got in amongst us, and I hate to feel powerless, especially against someone who is faceless.