Apologies & Forgiveness

To speak your mind, it seems that there are now certain caveats that are in place, firstly whatever you say mustn’t offend the person your speaking to or about or indeed anyone in the vicinity, all of which is impossible.

I think Annie Lebowitz said something like the very fact that you leave your house you will be offended

I think the above is true I often wonder when did  we all become so sensitive, our skins so thin to be almost translucent, that anything deemed as slightly “off” require epic explanations and apologies.

To give a sincere apology means you regret an action towards another and put forth your reasoning as to the “why” of your actions, but it also demonstrates your understanding of how you’ve affected other’s.

Forgiveness is another matter entirely, but there has to be a willingness to listen and understand the other’s point of view(not that you have to like or agree), but with that, the acceptance must be sincere on that side too.

Apologies cannot always be given lightly though it’s part of the societal mores that grease the wheels and keep us humming along, but it’s important that others understand that your personal views are your own, and the apology might be put forth for the delivery, but not necessarily for the points expressed.

People cannot be expected to lash themselves to the nearest cross in abject contrition because another demands it, after all its just a word and needs to carry weight not lose it’s power because someone just says it so you’ll leave them alone, then further demands for apologies ensue a vicious circle if you will.

I believe that when you forgive, then you must do exactly that, and not use the transgression to continually club the other over the head, you can only take care of your own moral compass and move on, as others also have the right to do

 

 

 

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I returned to this blog in September 2014, after a 2 year absence, due to depressive illness and homelessness. This journey charts the rocky road to recovery and my feelings about it, and getting a home together after losing everything, this too has been a rocky rocky, both things connected on many levels, but separate at the same time. If you want to know more please read my blog:) and comment on any blog you like I enjoy the interaction, and belong to a great community on here. Thanks for reading.:)
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